DHS+Peer+Mediation+Process

** Darfield **** High School **** Mediation Process ** // Hi, I’m_and this is // // We are your mediators for this session. Are you familiar with mediation? // // Mediation is students helping students. We have no power to enforce anything but “your voice has more choice”. We won’t judge you or tell you what to do. We will not take sides. We are here to help you resolve this situation. Everything that is said here will be confidential unless you choose to share something with us that is against the law or something which could be harmful to you or to someone else. //
 * 1. **** Introduce yourself and your co-mediator. **

// In order for mediation to work we have some rules that everyone needs to agree to: // // - Agree to work to solve the problem // // - No name-calling or put-downs // // - No physical fighting // // - No interrupting // // - Be honest // // We ask that you speak directly to us and not to each other. Do you agree with these rules? //
 * 2. **** Rules **

// Who would like to speak first? (Tell the other who is going second) - And you will get your turn next, thanks for waiting. //
 * 3. **** Story-telling **

// First person (Disputant 0ne) // // _,Please tell us what happened and how you are feeling about this. // // (Restate – Summarise main points of what was told to you) //

// Second Person (Disputant Two) // // _,Please tell us what happened and how you are feeling about this. // // (Restate – Summarise main points of what was told to you) //

// _(Disputant One) Do you have anything you would like to add? // // (Ask clarifying questions and restate) //

// _(Disputant Two) Do you have anything you would like to add? // // (Ask clarifying questions and restate) //

// (Repeat this process with both disputants until they have nothing to add) //


 * 4. **** Establishing needs **

// ___(Disputant Two) What would you like to happen as a result of this mediation?__ //

_(Disputant One) What would you like to happen as a result of this mediation?

// ___(Disputant One) What can you do to solve this problem?__ // // (Restate – Summarise main points of what was told to you) //
 * 5. **** Finding solutions **

_(Disputant Two) What can you do to solve this problem? // (Restate – Summarise main points of what was told to you) //

// Ask clarifying and focusing questions to encourage them eg. // // What will happen if...? // // Could you explain what you mean by...? // // What could you do differently next time to prevent this situation happening again? // // What do you need from...? // // If you value this friendship, what could you do to improve the situation? // // How do you think this could work? // Solutions should be **//Fair – Realistic – Specific//**

// (Summarise the agreement) //

// Does this agreement solve the problem? (Ask both disputants) // // (Write up the agreement) // // Are you prepared to sign this agreement? (Ask both disputants) // // (Have everyone sign) (plan a follow-up date) //
 * 6. **** The Agreement **

// Please tell your friends the conflict has been resolved. // // (Congratulate the disputants on reaching an agreement) // // (Explain that this mediation will be kept confidential and that your report will be kept by the school counsellor in a safe confidential place) //
 * 7. **** Closure **